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Thursday, August 21, 2014

Why you haven't seen me online for a while.

It's been a very long time since I've written on my blog, the last post being about an individual that I knew who died BASE Jumping and how that had effected me. I guess that says something in and of itself....I think it had more of an impact on me than I originally thought it did. 

For the longest time I was very, very involved in the outdoor adventure community. Living in Moab, Utah (the now mecca for outdoor adventure sports) and myself being a slackliner and highliner I surrounded myself with all types of athletes from rock climbers to other highliners, BASE Jumpers, Wingsuiters, "rope swingers", mountain bikers, and many others. It was a thrill and I felt like I was in my element. I loved it; it was so empowering to be surrounded by other adventurers and in some respects we inspired and encouraged one another to push our limits. I felt like these were my best friends and that I was happier than I had ever been. But on some occasions it seemed to be the opposite. In order to be successful in the extreme athletics that we were involved in it started to become competitive and those that I thought were my friends somehow became my competition, which was never the intention. Not only that but people were starting to get hurt, and people were even dying.

I started to feel like it wasn't worth it anymore. People were injuring themselves and dying all around me. I had a friend in 2011 fall while rock climbing which resulted in brain damage. In 2012 there were multiple BASE Jumping accidents; people were crashing into the rock walls after jumping and having to get rescued and flown to the nearest hospital. A friend of mine broke her femur base jumping and is now, I'm sure, stuck with thousands and thousands of dollars in medical fees. Another person I knew passed away while BASE Jumping and then a year later, two more. Then, another rock climbing accident that resulted in death. At that point I really started to question why I was involving myself in such risk in the first place. While I was on a highline I felt free, I felt challenged and I felt powerful. I loved the feeling of accomplishing something after pushing myself and trying so hard. So much fear was involved and overcoming that fear was when I felt invincible. But was it really worth it?

For a while, I was very well known within the slacklining and highlining community. (Please see my website www.slacklinedynamics.com if you would like to see some of my accomplishments). I was one of very few females who could walk a highline successfully, especially long ones. I was walking pretty long lines and was able to perform a variety of tricks in the exposure of lines hundreds of feet high. I could keep up with the boys. My ego was flying high and I felt like that was what I was meant to be doing and I thought that I would be doing it forever. But, the thing was....I wasn't making any money doing it. Nobody was willing to pay me to highline whether it was for a periodical, a tv show, a performance or whatever else it was. I kept getting the following words "Hey! We would love to feature you in our magazine/newspaper/article/tv show but we can't pay you....this will be great exposure for you!" At first I thought this was alright and I let it slide. At least I would get exposure so that in the future people would know who I was and then would be able to pay me! But years started to go by and I kept hearing the same story over and over again...."This will be great exposure for you! Sorry we can't pay but you will be on TV!". I was really starting to get frustrated and so the passion that I had for what I was doing started to dwindle as it became harder and harder to get by.

The two things that really started to separate me from the sport that I had once loved were the injury and death's surrounding me and the lack of pay. At one point I was living out of my car with my dog just so that I didn't have to pay rent so that I could actually continue to do what I wanted to do, which was make it as an athlete and an artist. It was an experience that I chose to go through because I thought it was my best chance.

I started to realize that perhaps my type of athlete and artist just don't get paid and that's how it's set up to be. In order to get attention and get published to "eventually" make money I needed to have photographer's, but when the photographer would then contribute their photo's to the media they would request money from whomever was publishing the story. A lot of the photographer's would say "Hey Emily, so if I do get paid a decent amount of money for this I will certainly split it with you". But alas, that didn't happen even once within the four to five years that I was seriously pursuing the sport. So all in all, the athlete or artist doesn't get paid but the person holding the camera and/or the publisher or magazine or TV show does? I was out there performing my art and ultimately risking my life and I all I was really getting was my ego stroked? There seemed to be something very wrong with that picture and it seemed that I was just getting jerked around, manipulated and used for someone else's benefit. Without the artist/athlete.....there is no story to begin with so how is it possibly that I wasn't getting compensated?

Eventually I became more than fed up with my situation and moved away from Moab, Utah. Nowadays, I hardly slackline anymore. I have hosted and taught at a few women's slackline events which is something that I still very much enjoy, but I rarely slackline on my own. Nowadays I work full time for a company in Arizona and am loving life more than I ever have before. Since I have fallen away from the "big dream" of making it as an athlete I am able to stop and smell the roses. Working full time I make enough money to support myself and my family. I have a nice roof over my head. I no longer stress about "getting this gig or that gig" or getting paid for a performance or an article. Instead I work for my own money and get paid fairly for it. I enjoy my days off more than I ever had and I experience such joy in the little things like my dogs, music, flowers, weather, my fiance, just a normal everyday hike or being safely on the ground rather than up in the sky.

All of this being said I think the main point that I would like to make is that there is something very wrong with how athletes and artists are compensated. The way that everything is structured really doesn't allow for these individuals to succeed. It takes way more work and hardly any compensation for it, and sometimes it involves risking your life. I know top-athletes to this day that do not get paid fairly for what they do and what they have accomplished. I wanted to bring some light to this and also explain why I have dropped off the radar a little bit. I still love the sport and love what it has given to me and my progression in life. I am incredibly grateful. Having been able to push myself to those limits really helped me develop as a human being in ways that I can't explain. I am a different person and a stronger person than I would have been without it. Perhaps someday in the future my excitement vigor for the sport will return and you will see me out there again but for now I am very happy where I am....on the ground. :)

PS- Oh yeah, and I've also taken a pretty big interested in the search for Sasquatch. Perhaps I'll start writing about that on my blog instead....

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

The Elation and the Devestation

Since moving to Moab in 2010 to participate and experience the extreme sport "mecca" of the world, I have experienced more death than I ever have before. This is not something I EVER could have prepared myself for or ever would have expected. Death's occurring in the sports of climbing, rope swinging and flying; this year has been particularly extreme. I find it very difficult to process it all. I don't know how to react considering that I participate in the same dangerous sports that these deaths have occurred within and my boyfriend, Mark, does as well. Each time it has been a slap in the face and the most recent passing, Mario Richard, has particularly effected both Mark and I.  Mario was one of the world's most talented and passionate fliers having over 7,000 Skydives and 2,000 BASE Jumps without so much as a sprained ankle over a span of 25 years.  It is bringing up a lot of questions that I have about my lifestyle of choice and how I see the world in general. What does it all mean? How could even the best of the best die doing what they worked so hard to master?

Mario was one of our role models, both him and his beautiful wife Steph. We admired them immensely not only for their loving relationship but also their achievements and their maturity. Mario was especially an inspiration to Mark who also flies. He looked up to Mario for his long time safety record, his achievements, his business "Moab BASE Adventures", his willingness to teach others and his overall positive energy even through times of turbulence. We are both devastated and cannot fathom what Steph is going through. My heart goes out to her in this tragic time and I am hoping she finds peace within this loss. I will always remember my first flight through the deep red desert canyons which I could not have experienced without Mario and his passion for human flight. Thank you. You will always be remembered and will continue to serve as a role model for us regardless of where you are. A friend of mine has said, "They are not gone, they have only changed residence".

Sunday, August 4, 2013

The laughter and the happy

I just took some time to read through some very, very old blog posts and let me just tell you....THAT was eye opening. I was so happy!!!!! I was writing about hilarious encounters I had with people, strange people, dogs, things that made me laugh...wow. I am in shock at how much I have changed over the years and how caught up I became in "being successful". I just got off the phone with my sister and in explaining my posts to her i said "the laughter and the happy!!!" and she suggested that be my new motto :) I think that's a great idea. Wow....my posts actually used to be quite funny. Time to get back to that happy place!!!

Saturday, August 3, 2013

Going Facebook Free

Today is my first day Facebook Free and I can't tell you how excited I am to be doing this. Facebook has been such a big part of my life as I'm sure it has for many people in today's world. As fun as it can be seeing what everyone and their mother is doing on a minute by minute basis, I was really starting to notice how it was negatively affecting me and the overall quality of my life. I was so consumed with what I was posting on Facebook and what other people were posting on Facebook rather than being consumed with what was actually going on in my daily life. Somehow I was able to take a step out of it and look at it from an outside perspective: my life had become more virtual than it was real! Today being the first day, it's a bit funny, but I was actually thinking out of habit that I wanted to make a post on Facebook what it was like not being on Facebook. This made me laugh. This is the exact reason that I am going to "detox". I don't want my automatic response to any event to be posting about it. Rather, I want my response to be pure enjoyment and sharing it with those that are around me. Being the first day I can see that this is going to be a challenge but I'm ready! I'm so ready for this change and am beyond excited to see how it affects me and my overall happiness.

I am looking forward to continuing this blog and now that I will be Facebook Free I will feel more compelled to actually write. I have always loved writing but neglected it over the past few years. It really allows me to process my feelings and what I'm going through rather than bottling them up. That being said I will continue to write about my struggles, my experiences and everything in between. Time to enjoy the day!

Saturday, July 27, 2013

How the Structure of our Society Affects Women

I wrote this in college for an english course. We were instructed to choose a topic we were passionate about so I chose women's body issues which I have always been interested in. At the time I was also volunteering for the women's Sexual Harassment and Rape Prevention Program and the University of New Hampshire. This issue has recently come back up in my life and so I have decided to post my essay. 

How the Structure of our Society Affects Women

Young girls today are more afraid of becoming overweight than of nuclear war, cancer, or of losing their parents (Beyond Hunger). 90% of high school junior and senior girls diet regularly while only 10-15% are actually overweight (Maine 47), and on any given day 30 million American women suffer from eating disorders (Beyond Hunger). On television, 69% of female characters are thin and it's been found that only 5% are overweight (About-Face); 97% of print ads portray women as victims, sex objects, and other female stereotypes and in the 1990's, 11 times more diet advertisements were found in women's magazines than in men's (Maine 78). Based on these statistics, it seems that the way women are represented in the USA has a great impact on the way young girls, teenagers and women feel about themselves and more specifically, their bodies.

Why is it that as children girls are much stronger and self assured? They are even more confident and outspoken. It appears that when puberty hits girls begin to worry tremendously about how they look or how they appear to others. They begin to read fashion and beauty magazines, watch music videos, and soon they are comparing their own bodies to the ones that have been placed on a pedestal. Seeing these images over and over again, day after day, they begin to lose sight of who they really are and who they were before their concern with body image took over. Rather than defining themselves society begins to define them causing women of all ages to look in the mirror and see something they deem "imperfect". It's been found that 80% of women of all colors and all sizes wake up in the morning feeling inadequate (Beyond Killing Us Softly). In cultural studies, places with no television, magazines or other forms of advertisement contain very curvy women who remain self confident with their bodies. When the media is introduced to these cultures the body types of women change dramatically (Maine 99).

A woman's body is naturally curvy and this is something that we have all seem to have forgotten. Today, it is undeniable that the ideal female body in our country is a stick thin, boyish figure. Diet and weight control advertisements bombard us and it's been said through a United Nations report on women's body image that "advertising is the worst offender to a woman's well-being" (Maine 77). This ideal, magnified throughout the media, begins at a young age with who we all know very well: Barbie. 90% of 3-11 year old girls have or have had Barbie dolls (myself being one of them), which serve as a role model whether parents know it or not (About-Face). In real life these miniature women would realistically be 5'9" and 110 pounds, which if you think about it is extremely underweight for that height. The average weight for a woman that tall is 145 pounds! Physically, she would not be able to menstruate and plastic surgery would be the only way to attain some of the un-realistic proportions. Young girls begin to believe that this is what they should look like too. When puberty hits girls mature quickly, gaining 40-50 pounds and up to 10 inches in height (Maine 199). With the unattainable image presented to them they don't realize that their growth is actually quite normal. They start to think they are getting fat which leads to a great deal of dieting amongst children. In some cases dieting doesn't start at puberty but even sooner. In a recent study it's been discovered that weight and body image concerns have been found in girls as young as 7 years old (192). Is body image something 7 year olds should be concerned with?

An artists creation: Comparing the Barbie we know to a Barbie with normal proportions.

Women's magazines overflow with advertisements that promote a thin figure in turn causing women in the US to face many issues that could otherwise be avoided. As the media promotes diets, pills and butt busting workouts the overall messages seems to imply that we are not good enough as we are. In the past, women's magazines emphasized women's roles but as housework became less demanding throughout the years they turned to beauty and appearance. Thinness and body shape have become the definition of happiness and it has been drilled into the minds of females across the country that in order to succeed in life you must be attractive. Ad's promoting shampoo, make-up, cigarettes, clothing lines, shoes and accessories use supermodels as their marketing strategy and although it doesn't literally say being thin is the ideal, it lies within the images. "Searching through catalogues you wish you could buy the bodies, not the clothes," says Jessica Bullman in her book "Ophelia Speaks". Because the supermodels in magazines receive so much attention, girls and women begin to believe that their weight determines their worth. If they aren't thin they won't receive any attention or be taken seriously. But what many don't realize is that the women in these magazines aren't actually that "perfect". Photograph's are airbrushed and touched up. Women's legs are made smaller, their boobs made bigger and their lips more plump. One supermodel says that she only recognizes herself because of a distinctive mole (80). Still, women feel that if they don't look like these falsified images they won't be as successful or they will be seen as lazy or over-indulgent.

The morality messages in women's magazines have changed dramatically over the decades. The representation of "being good" has changed from being a good wife, good cook or good mother to eating less fatty food, focusing on maintaining a "sexy" body shape and wearing trendy clothes. Not only do girls and women feel negatively about their bodies but also about having a piece of chocolate cake, or wearing something that isn't a popular brand. It's a fact that eating too much fatty food is unhealthy, but instead of focusing on the health aspect of it it's all about what that specific food will do to your body shape. Magazines promote nutrition and fitness plans in order for women to lose weight and be more attractive and not for actual health reasons (About-Face). What about feeling good inside and remaining confident in who you are? What about those health reasons? In today's world it seems more important to look good on the outside than to feel good on the inside.

While men in magazines are shown as strong, powerful and macho, women are exposed in vulnerable positions and their bodies are used and abused to sell any product. The cost of this is the way our entire country views women today. Women are revealed, covered in dark make-up, at times curled up in little balls with their faces covered, surrounded by alcoholic beverages while dressed in nearly nothing. In a particular pornographic magazine, women are actually hung from trees. These images teach women that they are not supposed to be powerful like men are, they are more beautiful and sexy when they are vulnerable and they are more vulnerable when they are thin. As a result, eating disorders skyrocket and this sexy image is set into the minds of Americans. While looking at pornography men get the idea that women are sex objects: meant to be beaten and used. Pornographic magazines sexualize violence by hanging women from trees as mentioned, or displaying them with fists in their faces. It's no wonder so many women are found in such trying situations while they are only trying to fit into "society".

A Skyy Vodka Ad.
To attain the high standards set for them, women are willing to go to extremes. 7 million girls in the US suffer from an eating disorder as opposed to the 1 million boys and men. These eating disorders consist of Anorexia Nervosa, Bulimia Nervosa, and Compulsive Eating. Anorexia is defined as self starvation due to the desire to maintain an abnormally low body weight and 15-25% of body weight is usually lost. Bulimia is eating compulsively followed by vomiting, fasting and excessive exercise or the use of laxatives or diet pills. Both of these disorders are accompanied with a distorted body image, meaning that a perfectly healthy woman may look in the mirror and see only fat. Compulsive eating is quite different than the previous two. One attempts to take care of or comfort oneself through eating (while not hungry). It is a way to cope with uncomfortable feelings and it may lead to binging or repetitive dieting and fasting. Why must women attempt to attain something almost physically impossible? Most supermodels are thinner than 98% of American women (NEDA), and it is usually accomplished through very unhealthy methods. Being supermodel thin has its costs. A few possible symptoms of Anorexia include moodiness, kidney stones, constipation and even loss of period. Death is also a risk; over a person's lifetime 50,000 people die of an eating disorder (NEDA).

Not only do women starve themselves, binge, and purge but they increasingly undergo plastic surgery and cosmetic surgery to "fix" the bodies they were born with. Since 1997, cosmetic surgery has increased 293% (ViaHealth). Because anesthesia is used during these procedures and many patients have serious reactions to this, there are many risks which include airway obstruction, blood clots, brain damage, heart attack, nerve damage, stroke, or even death. However, it seems that these risks are only minor considering the enormous increase in the procedures. Despite the fact that there is a 9% surgical complication rate when considering liposuction (Maine 136), 117% more people have done it (ViaHealth). In 1988 20 deaths resulted from liposuction, yet women are willing to risk death to be beautiful. Women get their faces toned, peeled, blushed, lifted, moisturized, creamed and painted. Their lips are lined and pumped, their teeth are straightened and whitened. Eyebrows are tweezed, penciled and waxed. Lashes curled and coated, lids lifted, lined and shadowed. Body hair is shaved, waxed or removed by electrolysis and lasers, fat is even sucked out or pumped in. What would our country be like if we all accepted ourselves and others for the bodies we were born with instead of trying to change them?

Since 1973, there has been a great increase in women athletes from 800,000 to 2.5 million by 1997 (241). There were no full scholarships in 1972 but 20,000 in 1997. Although the increase in women's sports is wonderful and empowering sports also contribute to eating disorders. In 1992, out of 182 athletes 32% had one or more eating disorders. In females involved in just gymnastics the percentage jumped to 62% (242). Not only do athletic females struggle with perfecting their sport but being sexy at the same time. Athletic wear and uniforms are made much more revealing these days; even the governing board for women's beach volleyball requires all females to wear bikinis in an attempt to attract more sponsors and spectators (246). The Women's Tennis Association arranges appearances on late night talk shows, spreads in fashion magazines and clothing contracts to make the connection between sports and sex (247). The problem is a tennis player may feel she needs to be sexy in order to excel at her sport! Or, she may not want to pursue it because she doesn't want to be seen in such a revealing uniform. Sports are sports and are, in their origin, unrelated to sex. Women's participation in athletics should be encouraged so women feel healthy, strong and capable. Not sexualized. Athletics are a way to earn your curves and be proud of your body. It's a shame that all aspects of womanhood these days revolve around sex appeal.

Tennis player Anna Kournikova on the cover of Maxim Magazine

Not only does the media directly influence children, but indirectly by influencing their parents. If a parent is concerned with his or her own weight, this worry may rub off on the child leading to an unnecessary anxiety regarding body image. In addition, a parent may want to "help" their child by regulating their food intake. But, it's said that regulating a child's food intake can lead them to believe that they are eating for others and not for themselves (194). In the future, children that have had their food regulated for them may feel out of control when they eat on their own. As a parent, one mustn't control a child's eating: instead, inform them about proper nutrition and let them feed themselves in turn teaching them how much they actually need. It is very important that girls are saved from eating disorders at a young age; childhood dieting can lead to longer lasting eating disorders and can stunt growth (200-01). Its also a good idea to inform young girls about the changes they will go through during puberty: that it's absolutely normal to gain weight and shape and that these changes are imperative to becoming a woman.

Women shouldn't be held to a standardized ideal and neither should any human being. We are all born unique and different and that's what makes this world so diverse and beautiful! As women I believe we all need to stand up for our bodies and ourselves. We are not objects, we are human beings deserving of respect regardless of our physical appearance. It is up to us to change the way women are viewed. We need to challenge the system and fight for a more accepting society devoid of any standards and a larger view of what is beautiful!  Everyone deserves respect regardless of their size or body type and to make this possible we must change the way our society is structured. To do that it takes not following the rules and standards set for us. If we can come together and see that this issue isn't a small one, fairness for all shapes and sizes would benefit the quality of life in the United States and eventually, the whole world.

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